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I just came home from a 4 km barefoot run in pitch dark. The bus wasn’t coming before another 20 minutes so I decided to use the opportunity to run. It had rained a couple of hours earlier, so the asphalt was wet and cool.

When I got home I took a cold shower. We have to make fire to get heat in the water tanks at home, and many times when I get back from a run, we don’t have any hot water so it’s just to step into the shower and get it over with. I didn’t mind though. And it was when I was standing in the shower, not minding it at all, that it got to me that there were many things I don’t mind today that I would’ve gotten very irritated by, just 2 years ago (or even more recently).

First off, just a couple of months ago I didn’t like cold showers at all and avoided them at all costs, even on hot summer days. But one day when I was in Korea 2 months ago, someone forgot to tell me about the hot water switch when I was alone in the apartment, so I stepped into the cold shower. And started laughing. It was such a funny situation that it was all I could do. If I’m gonna do something less enjoyable, I might as well make the most of it! And since that day I sometimes even willingly take cold showers even when there’s hot water in the tanks.

One other thing, is being barefoot. Until 2 years ago I really didn’t like being barefoot. I wanted my foot armor in shape of a shoe. It felt safe and stable. But at some time I started to enjoy being barefoot. Being more natural, not wearing shoes or socks (when it’s not too cold of course, that is), and lately I’ve been more and more into barefoot running. From not liking to be barefoot to prefer running without shoes even when I have them! It feels fantastic and I smile when I think about it.

It feels really good having made this progress in attitude towards things in life. Big ones and small ones. I don’t even sigh when I on rare occasions spill my cup of hot coffee over myself in the morning (don’t ask why I spill my coffee, I can’t answer), I just laugh over the silly situation and clean it up, feeling almost better than before!

Being able to laugh about things that might seem bad at first glance, but really is just silly or funny, have helped me relax and feel better. Good or bad is all about attitude and perspective, and you can chose whether you want to look on something as good or as bad. If something’s happened, it’s happened, and it won’t change because you don’t like it, so make the best of it and find the good or funny parts and laugh at it!

Many times we think that we need to be doing something all the time in order to be productive or just to prevent wasting our time. But even so, every so often we think we don’t have enough time or that we haven’t done enough.

What if the thing we haven’t done enough is to not do anything? The thing you’re worried about not having had time to do might just be that you haven’t taken your time to be still, to think, to not think, or to just enjoy being.

I bet there are hundreds of things in your head that you’d like to have time to process, but so many things are left untouched because you don’t have any time for your brain to work with what’s already in it.

When I ride the bus, the train or the subway, I barely see anyone without a phone in their hand, checking up on mail, communities, talking to someone somewhere else or playing games. People are desperately trying to fill out the ’empty’ time  while going somewhere.

Once in a while just try to consciously do nothing when riding the bus or the subway ( or at other times as well! ). Just be still, see if there are something you want to just think about, or just be, without thinking about anything. It’s strangely refreshing and your brain will probably like the time off from all the constant focus shifts that it has to withstand every day.

Spend some time with focus on yourself, just being aware of yourself, how your body feels, how your mind feels. Many times we’re so busy doing things that we don’t understand what we really need or that we’re getting stressed. Maybe you’re having trouble sleeping because you’re stressed without even knowing it or because your head is whirling with thoughts.

By being still and quiet you can sometimes realize that something’s going on inside you, and that you might be able to fix it before it blooms, or think through things so you don’t do it the time just before you fall asleep. When being still and quiet, you may also come up with ideas and solutions that you wouldn’t have otherwise because you were too busy doing something.

Try to leave some space. Sometimes the most productive thing to do is to do nothing at all.

You cannot change your reality with your will.

You can only adapt yourself, you actions and your mindset toward it.

When you realize this, a lot (but maybe not all) of your anger, irritation, and thoughts of unfairness towards you will dissolve.

You will realize what you need to do, and do it, and do it without feeling annoyed about having to do something. The reality is as it is. It’s not good, it’s not bad, it just is. And you have to face it. All the time. Every day. All you can do is adapt, and take action if needed.

Peaceful moment in silence.

Enjoy being. Being present.

I used to have music in my ears at all time except for when talking to other people. Really, to and from the bus I used my mp3-player. On the bus I used it. At work, school, home, in the car. The times when I just got to work and realized I’d forgotten my mp3-player or my ear phones, my day was ruined! I mean, who can work a full day without listening to music?

Well, I can now. And I even prefer to do it without music (at least my current job).

Since I started to actively trying to get to learn myself better, and be more present, the need for constant distraction has reduced greatly. I focus on what I do, and wether I have music or not while doing it doesn’t really matter any more. Being present in silence is spending time on yourself, whatever you’re doing. And also my ability to be present and focused increase  when I’m not distracted by music and sounds.

I write this even though I love music. I’ve played in several bands and I’ve been to lots of live shows, but there’s a time for music, and there’s a time for silence. My default mode has switched from listening to music to listening to and enjoying silence. Of course I still listen to music, but when I do, I put on music to listen to it, not to keep it as background noise, as a distraction.

The few times I get home by driving a car, when I stop outside the house and turn off the car, the silence is almost magical. It’s so intense and calming. It’s just you, coming home after a probably lively day (or just from having spent some time in a noisy car), and silence. I sit and breath deeply for a while before I get out, almost as getting ready to face the world again. But actually, I’m almost more present in the world in the silence and presence within the quiet car because there are so few distractions.

I believe that many people listen to music all the time during work and on the bus etc. because it feels like you’re a part of ‘it’ that way. That other people are listening to the same thing and that makes you connected to them the moment you also listen to it. It’s just that it doesn’t matter if you listen or not, you’re always part of the world. I think my ability to enjoy time without music has grown from having gotten to know myself better. Simply starting to enjoy spending time alone, or just being. The need for getting feedback that I’m part of ‘it’ is not there anymore.

Try spending some time in silence, intently forget your mp3-player,  try to spend just an hour without music at your work, or ride the bus without your ear phones plugged in! It might be a really pleasant experience! And also, it’s a very, very simple form of enjoying the moment! (And it’s cheap!)

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Do weird things! Stand upside down!

Do weird things! Stand upside down!

I’ve been in Japan now for almost 10 months now. I took a trip to Korea for 18 days not long ago.
Since I started to live abroad I’ve started to appreciate lots of things I never even thought of before when I was in my old life with the perspective I had back then. Since I moved away I’ve gotten perspective on my own life, on the world, and insight in many other things. I’ve become interested in improving my self, my way of thinking, my mind, my life, the world and in nature.

I’ve become aware of habits and mindsets that I have that I thought was common in the world even though they’re not, and because of that I’ve begun to appreciate them too. Things my parents told me and taught me when I was younger have suddenly sunk in through the thick layers of my own “perfect ideas” I had when I was little, and I’ve started to see the value in them.

I love that I’ve become aware of these things and I love that I’ve started to appreciate them, and I can’t express well enough the awesome feeling of having lived abroad and get perspective! It’s amazing, and I feel that my life has become so more interesting since I came here!

I’ve started reading books that’re contributing to my life, and not just for fun (that doesn’t mean they’re not fun, I enjoy every second I spend reading them!).

Small things I’ve suddenly become thankful and happy for:

My parents’ teachings:
– I chew with my mouth closed. Not everyone in asia does that, not even many.
– I clean up after me. As we all know, people in the world who cleans up after themselves are pretty rare
– I believe in myself.
– I like myself
– I cover my mouth with the crook of my arm when I sneeze. This is common for people in general, at least in Sweden, but I haven’t spent much thought on it before. In asia people mostly sneeze in the flat of their hands which they later use for, well, everything; opening doors, holding on to something to keep their balance on the train etc.. I’ve heard that it doesn’t matter much in asia because people don’t greet each other with handshakes… unless they greet a foreigner. I feel a bit of terror every time I grab on to something on the train or when I shake hand with someone here. At least I think it helped me to finally stop biting my nails!
– I cook my own food. My teachers have been impressed even by a egg+salad sandwich I made myself. I was embarrassed ^^
– I keep my room and my possessions clean.
– I take time for myself to just be.
– I value myself over mindless work.
– I say no to things I don’t want to do (unless they’re really unavoidable).

Other things:
–  I get filled with joy when I see children playing and often wave and smile at them.
– I often seek eye contact with strangers, just for a moment, and often offer them a smile.
– I try to help others as much as I can.
– I’ve been inspired to live my life.
– I like watching nature.
– I get shivers when I hear about nature friendly energy sources (solar power <3<3) .
– I’ve started sleeping regularly.
–  I’m me.

These are things that came to mind just now, but I feel now that I am way more aware of small things now, that I didn’t spend much thought on when I was still in Sweden, and had no bigger thoughts on life itself.

I’m so happy that I’ve come in contact with the people and blogs that changed my life, and are still changing it!

Love your life! Pay attention to things around you and feel inspired by them! Enjoy life’s moments and don’t settle for something you don’t feel is right!

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I couldn't find any cool picture on laundry, so I'll post this picture on a really handsome cat instead. I think it's sitting in a laundry basket (seriously)

I’ve been idle here for quite some time now, so I thought it’d be a good idea to just continue writing instead of worrying about what to write. I won’t just throw in anything here, but you might get the idea. I’m just gonna write about things that come to my mind that I find interesting and maybe someone might just like it.

So I wanna start out by saying that yesterday I did all my laundry by hand, as I normally do, and it was quite a bunch of clothes (for being washed by hand), and it was a bit intimidating before I started (it wasn’t THAT much, it rather… felt much), but then as usual, I put some music on, put on the headphones and started half dancing and squeezing the crap out of those shirts and pants and underwear and socks!

And hey did I feel good when I was done? I’d just beaten those clothes right back to where they came from, and in 1-2 days I’d be able to wear them again, clean and nice! All right! So I marched up to the third floor (I live in a guest house in Japan with three floors), feeling pretty good, to hang it all on some ropes on the veranda… Did you know that they have that pretty uncomfortable snow mixed rain in Japan as well? Well, they do, and it was falling outside.

The problem with washing by hand is that things don’t tend to be as ‘dry’ as if you’d washed them by machine, so it can be nice to hang them up outside so if some water drips, it ends up on the floor or the veranda floor, or your neighbor’s fallen laundry, but, since I had to hang everything up I had to use my room.

I felt pretty comfortable and secure, hanging that laundry by the window, so when I went to bed I could just lay looking at it until I fall asleep, knowing that I did that laundry and it is DONE.

I wake up, and it’d been dripping some amount of water down to the list in front of the window, and there’d been condension on the metal list above the window as well, so I wiped it up with a small towel and it was cool, and I started feeling good again.

Now this might sound pretty unnecessary; why wouldn’t I just wash my laundry by machine like other people and shut up about it, and I wouldn’t have to worry about dripping water either. Win-win?

Or is it?

When I woke up, and saw my laundry there, and the area around the windows looking a bit like the inside of an aquarium, I felt GOOD. -> I <- had washed my own clothes, and they would be clean because I did. And I did save about 600 yen (about 5 euros, 50 sek) because we don’t have free washing machines here, and you have to tumble everything twice to get it dry. And also, it was fun, dancing to silly Japanese eurobeat pop music and squeezing socks and feeling warm water on my hands (which I protect by wearing dishing gloves since my last laundry session).

And it also feels really great having the feeling that you’ve done something yourself. It’s the same as I feel when eating food that I’ve cooked. It might not always be the best tasting food, but I did it myself, I probably developed some skills without knowing it, and I saved some money not eating out.

But it takes up some of my time, doesn’t it!? YES! But it’s time spent feeling good! And doing things that directly helps me a bit in my future life, pretty much always feels good! If I cook, I’ll probably get better after a while. If  I do my laundry by hand, I can listen to music, get my clothes clean (and some arm exercise) and I can get them clean in the future even if the power is out for some reason. And at the same time I’ll be saving some money. It might not be huge amounts each time, but it adds up!

Also, if you don’t do it yourself, what are you doing then? I find doing laundry and cooking be more valuable to my life than watching tv-shows or playing games! Don’t get me wrong here, I don’t book my friday night up so I’ll be free to do the laundry because it’s just THAT fun, and I like playing games. But you might get the point, that it contributes some value to my life by making me feel good over a longer period of time, rather than just laughing for a couple of minutes and when it’s done, I have to find something else to make me laugh for another few minutes. By doing things that contribute to your life and makes you feel good, you’ll feel better overall. And if you always eat out or do things by machine, you might get some time over, but what are you doing with that time? Are you really just saving time to watch more tv-shows? Or have you actually taken some awesome decisions in your life and started doing things you love and develop skills on your free time?

If you’re saving time so you can watch more tv-shows, I’d like to recommend doing things more by hand. If you’re already developing skills and do things you love, you’ll have time for those too, and it’s always nice with a break! You will also be consuming less!

Feeling good inside (sometimes outside too) is what I think life is about.

Here’s another post to read to feel good! Might not be 100% related, but heck, it’s my blog so I can post it if I want to! : D

Have a GREAT day!

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