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You cannot change your reality with your will.

You can only adapt yourself, you actions and your mindset toward it.

When you realize this, a lot (but maybe not all) of your anger, irritation, and thoughts of unfairness towards you will dissolve.

You will realize what you need to do, and do it, and do it without feeling annoyed about having to do something. The reality is as it is. It’s not good, it’s not bad, it just is. And you have to face it. All the time. Every day. All you can do is adapt, and take action if needed.

Peaceful moment in silence.

Enjoy being. Being present.

I used to have music in my ears at all time except for when talking to other people. Really, to and from the bus I used my mp3-player. On the bus I used it. At work, school, home, in the car. The times when I just got to work and realized I’d forgotten my mp3-player or my ear phones, my day was ruined! I mean, who can work a full day without listening to music?

Well, I can now. And I even prefer to do it without music (at least my current job).

Since I started to actively trying to get to learn myself better, and be more present, the need for constant distraction has reduced greatly. I focus on what I do, and wether I have music or not while doing it doesn’t really matter any more. Being present in silence is spending time on yourself, whatever you’re doing. And also my ability to be present and focused increase  when I’m not distracted by music and sounds.

I write this even though I love music. I’ve played in several bands and I’ve been to lots of live shows, but there’s a time for music, and there’s a time for silence. My default mode has switched from listening to music to listening to and enjoying silence. Of course I still listen to music, but when I do, I put on music to listen to it, not to keep it as background noise, as a distraction.

The few times I get home by driving a car, when I stop outside the house and turn off the car, the silence is almost magical. It’s so intense and calming. It’s just you, coming home after a probably lively day (or just from having spent some time in a noisy car), and silence. I sit and breath deeply for a while before I get out, almost as getting ready to face the world again. But actually, I’m almost more present in the world in the silence and presence within the quiet car because there are so few distractions.

I believe that many people listen to music all the time during work and on the bus etc. because it feels like you’re a part of ‘it’ that way. That other people are listening to the same thing and that makes you connected to them the moment you also listen to it. It’s just that it doesn’t matter if you listen or not, you’re always part of the world. I think my ability to enjoy time without music has grown from having gotten to know myself better. Simply starting to enjoy spending time alone, or just being. The need for getting feedback that I’m part of ‘it’ is not there anymore.

Try spending some time in silence, intently forget your mp3-player,  try to spend just an hour without music at your work, or ride the bus without your ear phones plugged in! It might be a really pleasant experience! And also, it’s a very, very simple form of enjoying the moment! (And it’s cheap!)

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This is something I’ve been thinking and reading quite a lot about lately. What’s “tweaking your life” about?

For example, a few months ago I started practicing guitar more than I used to before. Maybe 30 minutes almost everyday. At first it seemed like usual, I didn’t see any instant results, so it felt a bit boring (Remember that this happens to me, even though I’ve been practicing guitar for years and KNOW results show up over time, and I still have a hard time convincing myself sometimes). I was practicing a thing called sweep picking, but it was really hard at the beginning, I went in slow motion speed, trying to get the pick and fingers in the right places ding the sweeps. But week by week I felt the speed and accuracy increase, and I got thrilled by it! I showed of my new skills to a friend, and she refused to believe that just a few months ago I couldn’t do it at all! I’m far from mastering it, but I’m way better than I was before.

Tweak: Started practicing guitar, which I like, about 30 minutes almost every day.
Result: Guitar skills improving faster than I imagined.

Everything you do add up do what you are. If you quit one bad habit, you’ve deleted one thing you didn’t like about yourself or your life. It might seem like a small thing, but then you learn something new that you like, and then you’ve deleted one bad thing and added one good thing, that’s two good things, and you’ve improved yourself towards what you want to be. And you have a lot of time in life to delete bad habits and add good ones and learn new skills. The more you do this the closer you’ll be to the person you want to be!

When I started thinking thinking more of the long run than the short run, that is, results over time instead of results in one hour, things started adding upp more quickly than I though. More than often the joy of doing new things or quitting bad things is the thrill of the moment. You always get that when you try something new, but it’s hard to sustain because once the first curve of success plains out a bit, it’s hard to imagine that what you don’t see results of right now will show result in the future, probably a closer future than the one you’re thinking of.

So don’t think it’s a waste doing small improvements. Big improvements start as small ones, and add up! It doesn’t just sound nice, it’s true as well! I’ve written about this before, but I’m so excited about it, I have to write about it again!

… doesn’t compensate for practice not done today!

Why is it so often that when we want to do something we end up doing something completely different? You’re sitting there thinking you really want to learn how to do something, that you really should start studying or that it’d be a great idea to start exercise today, but instead you end up watching a movie or playing games.

I’ve been thinking of this quite a lot lately, and I think that we act the way we do because we’re not seeing any immediate results of what we’re doing. We’re afraid  that it’s a waste of time doing things that takes more than ten minutes to get a result from, instead of getting an instant laugh from a tv-show or win a game online.

I know some people that have hobbies and ideas that both they and I know are the real joy in their life, but never the less they’re very often ending up doing nothing most of the days.

It’s never too late to start getting back on track though! Remember that/those skill/-s you have? Do you remember that you actually practiced to get them, and do you remember the people you know that don’t have them? Well, that’s the long run results of practice, and it’s easy to forget that!

In my experience it’s the long term results that are the ones that gives the most joy, because you know you’ve worked hard for them, and that it’s taken a lot of will to get there, but you did it! That’s a proof of that you’re able to achieve things that are more valuable than getting lots of friends on a certain online community.

And there is no better time to start than today. Today is always the best day to start!

One thing that’s important when practicing something is to stay focused. Avoid watching tv or chat online at the same time as practicing, close that down. If the instant kick urge is too strong when you’re in your room, get out of your room and do it somewhere else. This guy has a few things to say about focus, so if you want, check it out! Start practicing in small chunks of time just to get the routine in there, then start extending the chunks of time until you’re doing things you love and want to get better at so much that you will happy pretty much all the time!

I’ll end with a quote I read today on an awesome blog of happiness: “Happiness not spent today, doesn’t equal more happiness tomorrow” – Scott Dinsmore

The same goes for practice. Practice done tomorrow doesn’t compensate for practice not done today. (Fine, it didn’t end with the quote, but I hope it’s all the same!)

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You could learn how to play this!

Sometimes it’s really easy to be content with working or going to school. Like it doesn’t matter what you do before you go there or after you get home, because you’ve already been a good girl or boy and done your duty for society.

I’ve been there and I’m still struggling with it sometimes. But I also know that living that way will never get anywhere in life, and I won’t get better at things I like or do things I want to do. Your life is more than just going to work or school, thinking otherwise is punishing yourself.

I was taking a walk today, and I took a quiet break in the nearby park, watched some children play around, and just sat there. I was thinking I should practice some guitar and study Japanese today, but I was also blocked by the thought “Wouldn’t it be nicer just to not do anything demanding today? It’s weekend after all”.

But even though I like to have some days when I don’t do anything, it hit me that doing these things wouldn’t be demanding. I love playing guitar, and I really want to learn Japanese, that’s why I’m here, so why am I thinking like this?

I don’t get better at Japanese or playing guitar by not doing it. It can help watching a movie or just listening to music from time to time but at some point you will have to get off your ass and just do what you love and get better at it. And you WILL get better at it if you just keep doing it regularly and don’t give up too fast. And it’s fun getting better at what you love! If it gets a bit dull, take a break, take a walk, and get back to doing it!

Getting good at things and making changes in your life take time, so having good motivation and do things you love is important. And it’s so much more rewarding, both for your soul and your aims, to let yourself take time to get good at things. If you got good at anything in just a few days, then anyone could be good anything without putting any effort to it, and that would take away all the fun.

Making a better person of yourself is what I believe life is about, and I also believe that that is how you get happy, by constantly improving yourself and your mind.

What do you want to do?

  • Learn to play the guitar? Pick up the guitar, search youtube for guitar tutorials!
  • Start saving money? Stop spending and learn to be happy with what you’ve got!
  • Getting healthier? Check Internet for healthy recipes, cut out unhealthy food and start moving!
  • Getting a cleaner room/house? Clean it, declutter it and keep it clean and decluttered!

What do you want to get good at? What do you love doing? Are you doing it right now? If not, start doing them! It’s your life, so do the things you love, there’s no reason in the world not to!

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